Monday, 5 March 2018

Claire and Ross's Humanist Wedding at Carlowrie Castle



Weddings are often seen as a 'girl' thing, so this story told from the groom's point of view is very special for lots of reasons. The words are from Ross: the atmospheric photos are by the gifted Suzanne Li


The walk down the aisle is normally reserved for the bride and her wedding party. For me the importance of walking my mum down the aisle arm in arm was hugely significant.


Our wedding was the first major family event since my dad passed away back in April 2015, so it was a day full of mixed emotions both for myself and more so, for my mum. However, I know my dad was celebrating with us throughout the day. Tim, our celebrant, and toasts to my dad during the evening speeches, paid tribute to a great man.


After showing my mum to her seat, I joined my best men up front and the anticipation grew as we waited on my wife to be making her grand entrance. Having a couple of my trusted buddies beside me eased the nerves.



First to appear was my little cousin Craig, looking dapper for his first time wearing a kilt. He had been in training on the lead up to the wedding, practicing his walk down the aisle on his own carrying both rings on a small cushion. As soon as he entered and saw me at the other end of the aisle, all training went out the window and he ran at full speed, delivering the rings in spectacular fashion. Job done little cousin!!



Next down the aisle was Claire’s cousin and our only bridesmaid, Jenny, and she looked amazing! I could tell from her face she was full of emotion. I was glad she was by Claire’s side on the day, the two of them were as thick as thieves growing up.



Prior to the big day one of the best pieces of advice I received was to take moments throughout the day and make mental snapshots. 



As the music started playing and the doors opened, Claire appeared with her dad at her side, this was one of my mental snapshot moments. Not only did she look amazing in her dress, but it was also the happiest I’d ever seen her.

I was the proudest guy in the room.



As she joined me up front we both had smiles from ear to ear. All that planning, the emails, phone calls, Skype sessions, venue visits, flights home for fittings, menu tastings, meetings with our wedding planner, photographer, videographer, celebrant and band had all culminated in this moment.

Tim commenced the ceremony with a short quip about humanist weddings and immediately put the room at ease. That set the tone, and from then on the remainder of the day flowed seamlessly.




The great work from everyone involved including our photographer and videographer, combined with our own mental snapshots of the day, ensured we now look back on our wedding fondly with many great memories.


Thank you so much, Ross. Your words mean the world to me, and I'm just so glad you and Claire decided to ask me to conduct your wedding!


The entrance of the groom can be every bit as important as the entrance of the bride. It's a chance for the groom to honour his relationship with his parents, and as Ross has shown, it's one of those moments when actions speak louder than words. 

Thanks again to Claire and Ross, and of course to Suzanne Li for these lovely photographs

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