Sunday, 29 July 2018

Ailsa and Sam's Humanist Wedding at Broxmouth Park



Isn't this just a stunning image from Marc Millar? It absolutely captures the dream-like quality of Sam and Ailsa's wedding, as they look back on their big day at Broxmouth Park.

"It is mad looking back and realising how quickly it has gone. We've settled back into normality again, but we have really enjoyed meeting up with people who were at the wedding and reminiscing over the day and seeing it through their eyes. 

It's strange because on one hand it felt like the day and the weekend flew by, however it still remains crystal clear in our memory (up to about 10/10:30pm!) 

We couldn't have wished for the day to have gone any differently, everything seemed to align perfectly. 


We have had lots of people comment on how much they enjoyed and how special they felt the Humanist ceremony was, it was exactly what we wanted, so thank you for that. 


Choosing to have a humanist ceremony was the best decision we could have made. It enabled us to create a truly unique and personal ceremony which included all of our family and friends. 


Ailsa and Sam gave a lot of thought to their ceremony. They started with a ring-warming, followed by a reading of 'The Key to Love' By Robert M Millay, from Ailsa's guardians, Andrew and Jane.  Their good friends Svea and Joe then told us the story of Sam and Ailsa, which had some killer lines! I particularly liked this one... 'Playing it smooth, Sam said "hi" before cooking a frozen pizza which was as ice-cool as his introduction and as Hawaiian as his shorts.'


Sam's parents, Nicola and Julian read us 'On Your Wedding Day', and we had a moment of silent contemplation before Ailsa and Sam spoke the vows they'd kept secret from one another until that moment.



As they told me, 'The ceremony gave us the opportunity to think about and say everything we felt about each other and has given us some amazing memories. 




There have also been a couple of engagements since the wedding so we like to think our day had something to do with that! 


We would definitely recommend having a humanist ceremony - and particularly you - to anyone planning their wedding. 


Hopefully we will be back in touch in a few years for a different kind of ceremony!" 

Well I do hope so, Sam and Ailsa: that's something I would love to do, so thanks again for asking me to conduct your wedding, and as they say in Brussels, 'à bientôt!'

Sunday, 15 July 2018

Carolann and Graham's Humanist Wedding at The Vu

The big moment at every wedding is the entrance of the bride: well not any longer!



Groom Graham had other plans. He decided to hide in a cupboard before the guests came into the Waterlily, and once they were all settled, he made his surprise entrance, which is you can see, had everyone in stitches.



Carolann got her moment in the sun too, and she wasn't remotely upstaged by her groom.


Just back from their honeymoon in Cuba, they sent me these great shots by Rod Irvine, and a wee note to say, "We both just wanted to thank you again for a fantastic ceremony, everyone commented on how great it was and they all loved you! 


Take care, and thank you again for everything!" 

Thank you, Carolann and Graham: I loved your wedding and I am just delighted that everyone else did too! 

Monday, 2 July 2018

Rehearsals without a Celebrant

If you don’t have the time for a formal rehearsal, here’s a useful checklist of things to think about as you prepare for the big day.

What time is the ceremony?
What time will the groom’s party arrive beforehand?
Who’s going to help the guests find a seat?
Who’s going to distribute the Orders of Ceremony?
Who’s responsible for the entrance music?
How is the groom going to come in?
How is the bride going to come in?
How do you want to stand?
Who do you want to stand beside you?
Who’s doing the readings?
Have you printed the readings for them?
Where are they going to sit?
Do they need a microphone and a PA?
Do you want your guests to sing?
Are the words of the song in the order of ceremony?
How do you want to speak your vows and legal declarations?
If you want to speak them yourselves, have you printed them on cards?
Are you going to exchange rings?
Who’s going to give the rings to you?
Who are your witnesses?
Do you have your Marriage Schedule?
Who’s going to bring it on the day?
Who should the celebrant give it to after the ceremony?
If you want to incorporate a symbolic gesture, who’s bringing the elements?

Suzanne and Craig's Humanist Wedding at The Macdonald Marine Hotel


The weather has been gorgeous recently, but these blue skies date from way back in April, when Craig and Suzanne tied the knot in North Berwick, famously one of the sunniest places in the whole country.


Their relationship began at a party where Craig literally swept Suzanne off her feet!


Much of their courtship was spent driving around East Lothian, listening to music and stopping for ice-creams - just like a pair of teenagers, as Suzanne said.


She was delighted that her handsome son Antonio and Craig bonded straight away, and it wasn't long before they were joined by their beautiful daughter, Layla.


In the five years they were together before their wedding day, they had some wonderful times, not least a trip to Las Vegas, but the most important was a short journey along the road to Gullane, where on the 30th of November 2017, Craig made Suzanne the happiest girl in the world when he proposed.




Our ceremony was in the beautiful gardens of the Marine HotelAfter a short pause to remember those who couldn't be with us, Antonio read us an old Scots blessing


Then Craig and Suzanne told each other why they'd chosen to marry. I think there were a few tears at that point, and they weren't all Suzanne's!




After Craig's sister Laura gave us a reading of Love and Laughter, Antonio came back to help me with the rings.



Of course we couldn't let Antonio hog the limelight, so I suggested that Layla conducted the hand-fasting, and she made a great job of it, as you can see!



I was very touched to get this message from Craig and Suzanne before they left for their honeymoon.

"We absolutely loved our ceremony, and everyone thought it was so personal. 



"We can’t thank you enough for the way you took the ceremony and included the kids - it was fantastic!"


That's because you wrote it, Suzanne and Craig! 

But seriously, thanks again for asking me to conduct your wedding and I wish you and your families every happiness in the years to come. 

Please pass on my thanks to your photographer, Martin Cardoo who did an excellent job of capturing a gloriously happy day!

Abigail and Ryan's Humanist Wedding at The Signet Library

 I don't usually post photos from the prep, but these candid snaps by Ricky Baillie are too good not to share! David (above) i...