Wednesday, 29 April 2015

Ramona's Naming Ceremony

A naming ceremony is very like a wedding but much more relaxed, and Ramona's welcome to the world was very laid back indeed. The house was packed with friends and their children as Claire, Bob and I talked about her journey into existence and the way her character has developed over the year she's been in the world.


It was a great story that began with Bob asking Scott the tiler if he wouldn't mind finishing the bathroom despite the sounds of an expectant mother. What came next was perhaps the most terrifying, exhilarating and beautiful experiences of Claire and Bob’s life, as they were able to deliver Ramona together, with no complications and without anyone else present - just mother, father and baby. (By then, Scott had made his excuses and left…)

Ramona is Bob and Claire's second daughter, and as they said, 'Becoming parents of two children has certainly been an education, but it has been a beautiful year, full of delights, and the challenges are well worth it.  To quote David Frost, “Having one child makes you a parent; having two makes you a referee!”


'Ramona loves spending time with all of her family and friends, but no-one more so than Scarlett.  When Ramona watches her big sister, it is obviously with admiration and love.  On any given day, you may find the two of them chasing each other around the house; playing tea parties; or just enjoying a bedtime story together.  Their absolute favourite games however are making castles out of all the living room furniture.'


One idea I gave them as a way of literally marking the day was of creating a Handbook for Life. You can probably buy them somewhere but The Blue Peter way it is to get a set of A4 sheets of cartridge paper, and some poster paints. Everyone gets their own page where they can make a print of their hand, and write something inspiring or thoughtful.  

Kids love it, and the paint washes off easily so it's not too messy. You then bind the pages together between hard covers and keep the book safe for a couple of decades until Junior is old enough to read it, which could be any time between the ages of 18 and 80, depending on the child... 

Along with these photos, Claire sent me this note. "Thank you again for delivering the ceremony for us. We both had a really wonderful day and hope that everyone enjoyed the ceremony as much as we did. The Handbook for Life was a beautiful idea and we plan to continue adding to it so that we can give Ramona a wonderful gift once she is a young woman".

Sunday, 19 April 2015

My New Portrait


Rhona and Paul are getting married at the beautiful Amisfield Walled Garden in Haddington this August in August, and they kindly sent me a snap of their wedding cake topper: an uncanny resemblance wouldn't you say?

Thursday, 16 April 2015

Same Sex Marriage

Last weekend I conducted my second legal same sex marriage since the introduction of new legislation at the end of 2014, and it was a hoot: fantastic music, wonderful ceremony, heightened emotion: everything I've come to associate with same sex ceremonies since I first started to conduct them almost ten years ago now.

In all that time, I've probably conducted about a dozen celebrations, but if you looked through this blog, you won't find a single picture, which is a shame. Gay rights have come a long way over the last 20 years, but there are still professions where people have to conceal their sexual identity for one reason or another, and it seems that every single wedding blessing I've done has fallen into that category.

Until now that is! I'm really delighted to have met Eli and Kate, who've asked me to conduct their wedding in their garden later this year, and they will be sending me some photos of that after the event, which I am really looking forward to, because I like the way they think.

We first met yesterday evening and we had a great chat and I was really pleased when we were talking about where they might stand and Eli came out with this phrase that they're going to have printed up to help the guests to know where to go.


Pick a seat

Not a side
Either way
It's for a bride

Pure dead brilliant, as we used to say: thanks Eli!

Saturday, 11 April 2015

How does the word homework make you feel?

I often wonder how people choose to share their homework with one another so it was lovely to get this message and photo from Amanda and Stuart.


While Wee Molly the Westie was away at my mum's for the weekend, we decided to share some alone time with some lovely red wine and read each other's homework with light music on in the background. 

After reading we were both amazed and how alike the stories were and how what I had wrote reflected what Stuart wrote. Once you see them you will understand. It brought back so many memories: we laughed so much while remembering all the great times we have shared until now and how much Stuart pinned my character to a t! As embarrassing as some of it was lol!

Our families are also writing some things up so will get them all sent to you soon :)

Thank you for the homework, we are now so excited for our ceremony and sharing the story of 'us' with you and our friends and family :)  x


Can't wait to read it, Amanda, thank you so much! 

Zoë and Scott's Humanist Wedding at The Balmoral Hotel

It's not often I marry a teacher to a pupil, but that was how Zoë and Scott met, when Zoë was a final year medical student and Scott...