Thursday, 20 October 2011

Nik & Becky's humanist wedding at Pollokshields Burgh Hall




About 4 years, ago, I married Bryan and Jen Ross at Dundas castle, where among the guests were Becky and Nikhil who loved the ceremony so much they decided to ask me to marry them earlier this summer. 



As they told me when we first met ten months beforehand, they were planning to have a slightly unusual wedding, with an Indian and Scottish mix, and I can still remember the wonderful smell that greeted me when I arrived at the venue, where the wedding breakfast was being prepared. I don't think I've ever felt so hungry and on reflection, I should probably have asked for a cairry oot!



When they got back from their diving honeymoon, Becky sent me this lovely note.



We just wanted to say thank you SO much for being our celebrant, you really helped us make our day the success it was.



We've had amazing comments and lovely cards from our family and friends saying how much fun they had during the ceremony, how personal it was and the most fun wedding they've ever been to!  



A lot of that is down to your guidance in making our day about us and doing it our way!  



The whole day felt so special but especially the ceremony we wrote with your help.  We are loving married life and will never forget the beginning of it all! :)  



Here are a few pictures of the fun we had, hope you like them!  I did - and if you like them too, you can contact their Manchester based photographer, Matt Wagster, here



If it wasn't for your suggestion to have our ceremony facing our guests, I wouldn't have my most favourite picture of Nik's face as he saw me enter the hall!  


I will always remember walking up the aisle being able to see his face all the way and shaking with excitement!

It's a very special moment - and I'm glad Becky's Uncle Alan caught it on his camera. Becky herself talks about how it made her feel on Any Other Wedding.

I was also most impressed by the short clip Becky and Nik sent me from their wedding video. It was made by Cherry Tree Films, who are based in Edinburgh, and as a former producer and director myself, I thought they did a particularly excellent job!

Sunday, 16 October 2011

Ian & Gill's Humanist Wedding at Kaim Park Hotel


When Ian and Gill  finally got back to the “real world” after their wonderful honeymoon in St Lucia they sent me this message to say thanks...



We had the most amazing day, our ceremony was just as we had wanted it to be, personal to us, very moving and also at times very entertaining!  Never before have I been to a wedding and experienced so many tears - tears of both laughter,joy and emotion!  




As you know from when we first met, we had both stressed how important it was for us to be able to include James and Hannah into our ceremony in some way.  Our humanist ceremony enabled us to do just that and we will treasure the memories of it always.



We must admit to initially being a wee bit sceptical and apprehensive when we were set our “homework” – it had been far too many years than each of us cared to remember since we had last been assigned homework!  



As it turned out, it was an extremely emotional, rewarding and enjoyable thing to do.  Thinking back to over 8 years earlier, when we’d first met, how we’d felt, and how we then came together as a family was such a rewarding thing to do.



I can honestly say that the ceremony, for us, was the most special and enjoyable part of our day... We had so many people speak to us later saying it had been the nicest, most enjoyable wedding ceremony they had ever been to.  



We thank you Tim for helping us to step back and realise what the day was really all about... This came through tenfold in our ceremony and we thank for helping us to achieve that.


What can I add to that, Gill and Ian, other than my thanks for asking me to be your celebrant in the first place, and for creating such a moving and inspiring ceremony! 


As you'll have noticed, all the photos are from Lush Photography, where Robert Wilson has done his own blog on the day and posted a whole bunch more great pics

Friday, 14 October 2011

Juls & John's Humanist Wedding at Ravensheugh Beach




The wild and wonderful Ravensheugh Beach is becoming very popular for weddings, not least because you can camp there, have a bonfire and invite all your friends to pitch in. This particular sticky out bit of coastline just south of North Berwick has a unique micro-climate that makes it one of the sunniest spots in the British Isles but even when the haar is rolling in off the Firth of Forth, it has an atmosphere all of its own.


If I'd been wearing one, I'd have taken my hats off to Juls & John, because they went to great lengths to create an incredibly memorable day.


I particularly liked the way they told their guests why they'd been invited.




"Juls and John want to say something very important today and they want to say it in front of you! You might think that you are here because of them but in truth they are here because of you. They want and need you to share this with them. 


You are not here as an audience, your presence here is an intimate part of this ceremony. You are not here merely to listen to recited words; you are to listen to the taking of solemn vows and in years to come, in good times or bad, they will look to you to remember this day and remind them of it and support them to strive for the shared future that it promises. 


You are not here to watch a show; you are here to witness their rite of passage and continue to be part of the story of their lives."


One of the first things they did was ask the best man, Keith "Liability" Aitken, to pass their wedding rings around the gathered throng, so they could all hold them for a moment, and make a silent wish.




And one of the last things they did, was jump over a broomstick with their little boy, Harris who thoroughly stole the show.


As Juls and John wrote, when they got back "from the Moon of Honey... Thanks so much for doing our wedding for us and putting up with our procrastination and last minute tendancies! It was an amazing ceremony, I felt quite giddy throughout and I thought you delivered it brilliantly with aplomb and humour aplenty. And plenty of our friends and family though the same. Thank you for that! Hope all is well and maybe see you around!"

I hope so! Who did these wonderful pics?

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