If the whole idea of Humanism is new to you, please take a moment to read this to decide whether or not you want a Humanist wedding, and are willing to join the HSS.
Check the HSS web site for information on humanist weddings and make a shortlist of possible celebrants.
Check your chosen celebrants are free on your date and can access your venue.
Choose one (me I hope) and discuss the details of the ceremony.
Agree the fee and payment of any travel costs - current details here
Return signed application form and fee to your celebrant.
Sign two copies of the Legal Marriage Form, give one to the celebrant and keep the other for your records.
Confirm the date and time, and pay the deposit to the celebrant.
If you're working with me, do your homework. (I’ll explain this when we meet!)
Start looking for suitable poems or prose extracts of your own, or from the collection that your celebrant will send you.
Send me the results of your homework.
I will read it, comment and send you three or more handpicked ceremonies I think you’ll relate to.
Using elements from the examples where relevant, write and then send me the first draft of your ceremony.
I will read it, make suggestions if necessary and return it for further amendments.
Agree on a final script.
Three months before the ceremony
Contact the Registrar closest to your wedding venue and complete their forms: you can find much more information about that here.
During the week before
Collect the Marriage Schedule from the Registrar
If you want to, have a rehearsal; pay the balance of fee and any travel expenses
On the day
the groom should bring the Marriage Schedule and give it to me before the start of the ceremony.
(If you’re exchanging rings, remember them too!)
Get married. It only takes about 20 - 30 minutes, so remember to enjoy it!
Have a glass of champagne with me and all your guests
Say goodbye and promise to send me some photographs!
Make someone responsible for returning the signed Schedule to the Registrar within three days of the ceremony (even if it’s only dropping it through their letterbox).
Live happily ever after…
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